Updated: Jul 5, 2019
We have all come face to face with rejection and it can feel awful right?...Read how you can begin to turn Rejection into the messenger for change, so it ends up flipping to its opposite,.
In the Beginning...
This week there' been a couple of big disappointments that have come in the form of Rejection. Usually I would spend days or months feeling not good enough or create a scenario about the other person then decide I must have done something to deserve being rejected, eventually I would exhaust myself with trying to look for an explanation or go down the path of blame.
I now choose to see it as a kind of message, a prompting, with an understanding that everything has an opposite, that pain and pleasure exist within the same moment, as Buddhist philosophy explains " One cannot be open to praise and not receive blame. One cannot experience pleasure and not feel pain. This is the nature of the reality that we know."
The Buddha taught that it was the denial of this truth that is the cause of all suffering. You cling to a desire for the positives in life while avoiding the negative events that occur. Yet despite all your efforts, you don't get many of the things you want, or they don't continue to satisfy you, or they go away.
The Buddha taught: the existence of duhkha, a feeling of unsatisfactoriness that accompanies every experience in which we are identified with our needs. ", and rejection itself often arrives when something we may have been wanting to change or holding onto through fear, keeps getting put off and the rejection can be a kind of redirection, an inner prompting is also message of change.
Our disappointments often arise out of our hopes and expectations.
Jack Kornfield writes: "Disappointment is a good sign of basic intelligence.: it cannot be compared to anything else, it is so sharpe, precise obvious and direct. If we can open, then we suddenly begin to see that our expectations are irrelevant compared with the reality of the situations we are facing. "
Disappointment can wake us up...if life is too easy then we may never really find true peace. Below our emotional whirlwinds and worries lies peace, peace is the underlying opposite of all our concerns. A reminder that everything is always changing and nothing is permanent.
This is why I love the #Buddhistwisdom, when we explore disappointment amidst all areas in life we come to see that there is a layer beyond what we can see, feel and experience through our sensory perceptions that transcends all of these experiences of suffering and that is our True Nature.
When you feel the pangs of rejection and disappointment arise, seek refuge within and explore, listen and discover the many benefits your inner messenger is bringing to you. And if you are struggling with this welcome a positive feeling: of gratitude, calm, self care, focus on that for a while, breathe so as to not hold the tension of rejection in your body but rather allow it to be there until it opens a little into its opposite.
Yoga Nidra & Meditation
This leads me to letting you in on why I have come to accept rejection as a redirection and how if we look honestly at what we have wanted or seek we will find that it is our inner truth reminding us of what we don't want and to seek refuge within to explore a different kind of "reality".
When I experienced Yoga Nidra for the first time in 1992, I took to it automatically, as if somehow I had come home or returned to somewhere that was familiar, safe, boundless, where I could discover and play, create any inner landscape as I explored and wandered through my uninhabited nature of being. Here nothing could harm or influence me.
We become robots to our experiences, our cultures, our jobs, we lose our playfulness, trust and connection to not only ourselves but to nature and others. This is why feelings like rejection hit us hard because our robotic nature continues to react and make the same choices.
Yoga Nidra, along with Yoga and Meditation re train our minds, bodies our emotions to become less familiar with the familiar and more in tune with our deepest self, we embody our true self.
On the eve of my next Journey inwards...
"May you find the answers, May your attachments drop away and become few,may you trust your inner nature to guide you and ground you, May you be at peace and awaken to the magic and mysteries of life"
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Cathie runs classes, workshops and training in Restorative Yoga & Hatha Yoga, Meditation and Yoga Nidra/Guided Visualisation, she specialises in PTSD and healing trauma.